Bad choice — lesson (2 level)

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Dear Dr. Tracy, am a 33 year old

divorced woman with four kids. I was married for 12 years and I have been divorced for
approximately 3 years. I
met my new boyfriend during my divorce. We
hit it off and have been
together ever since. He is a 44 year old divorced man. When I met him he had been divorced for 2 years. Well, I met his ex-wife and she seemed to be an okay person. What I found out 3 months into my relationship with him was that he was
fooling around with his ex-wife again— who also at this time had a boyfriend of her own(Санта-Барбара:))))).
I figured that since I did not have a
committed relationship with him,
I had no place to say anything. The problem is it
continued further into our relationship, up to the point when
I found out
I was pregnant. At the same time I found out that he and his ex-wife
planned to go to his family
reunion together. Of course before all of this, I drove by his house one night and saw her car
parked outside his home. The excuse I got after all of this was that they were
considering getting back together.
I thought it was very funny that
as soon as she met me, she found interest in him again.
I guess my issue is the fact that now I am still in this relationship.
I have brought a child into this
nonsense and I hate the fact that he keeps in contact with her. My boyfriend has
taken responsibility for her son from a
previous relationship. His excuse for having so much contact with his ex-wife is because of that boy. I know this is not
true but I have no
real proof otherwise. I have also
dealt with him
taking women to hotels and
my gut tells me it was her, but he promises it was not her.
I have
tried
to get over all the
cheating. I know that she is very close to his family and I also know that his family does not like me because
I stand up for myself. I guess
the bottom line is
knowing how much contact his ex-wife has with him and the fact that he knows
I can’t stand her. Am
weird relationship with a man that
wants to have his cake and eat it too? Or am
I being paranoid and
need to trust him when he says he does not want her. I have never had so much
animosity towards two people in my life. I do love this man, but I feel like
I have put myself back in an
unhealthy relationship with a man that is trying
to lie to me.
To be
totally honest, now that I have his child I even hate the fact that he helps her son. She never has to ask for anything
regarding that boy, but I have to
constantly remind him when our son needs something. He does it for the other boy
without thinking, but my son is a second thought even when I have said, — Look at your son. He is in
dire need. I was married to a
cheating man and
hooked up with another cheating man.
I wonder if it’s just my
bad choices in men.

Рассказ (1 аудио)

I guess my issue

issue

I have brought

brought

taken responsibility

responsibility

taking women to hotels

taking

real proof otherwise

otherwise

to get over

over

cheating

the bottom line

bottom

fooling around with

fooling

committed relationship

committed

mini story for bad choices (2 аудио)

David Beckham is a man- who wants to have his cake and eat it too.

he wants to be a famous movie star and a famous football player, so he moves to Hollywood, he hooks up with Tom Cruise

they hit it off, immediately

David Beckham says — the bottom line is that I want to be a movie star just like you. Tom can you help me

Tom says — of course, my gut tells me you will be a big success in Hollywood

Tom introduces backs to a director who is very powerful

introduces

backs

the director makes a movie with Beckham, but it’s a terrible movie, everybody hates it and they hate Beckham

the public feels a powerful animosity towards Beckham

they can’t stand him, they yell at him, they throw things at him Beckham can’t deal with the public animosity

throw things

he is a guy who is very sensitive, he become scared

he is a guy, who is very sensitive

he become scared

he feels this is a dire situation, Beckham is so scared, he won’t leave his house

he keeps the windows closed and the doors locked. he becomes paranoid

he won’t leave the house even to play soccer

soccer

finally his team manager calls and says this is a situation which is unacceptable

unacceptable

acceptable

you’re fired Beckham cries

he has no job and nobody can stand him

 

okay, let’s go back to the top this time with questions

does Beckham want two things? but really he can only have one, yes, that’s the exact meaning of to have his cake and eat it too.

exact

what two things does he want? well, he wants to be a soccer player and a movie star

he wants both but actually, he must choose he can only be one either: a movie star or a soccer player

he doesn’t have enough time or talent, or skill to do both, but he wants both, he wants to have his cake and eat it too

skill

does Beckham went to have his cake and eat it too by being rich and good-looking?
well, no, actually no, it’s possible to be rich and good-looking, that’s okay you can look good you can be Handsome and Rich

handsome (man)

you don’t need to choose between those two things, so that’s not the problem

choose between those

those

he wants to have his cake and eat it too because he wants to be a famous soccer player and be a famous actor at the same time and this is not possible

does he hook up with Julia Roberts? no it doesn’t hook up with Julia Roberts

does he hook up with the Spice Girls? well, in the past he hooked up with one of the Spice Girls

now this is a different meaning — of hooked up — is he dating Tom Cruise

they met, they got together, but it be hooked up with one of the Spice Girls and that means yeah he’s dating her

he’s married to her now, etcetera, so he hooked up with Tom Cruise and they hit it off immediately

etcetera

did Tom hate David? no. no. no, they hit it off immediately, they liked each other immediately

he likes Beckham because Beckham is cool and he looks good, so he hit it off with David Beckham

so, they liked each other and Beckham said- the bottom line Tom, is that I want to be a movie star just like you

what is Beckham’s final point is most important point? well the most important thing, he wants is to be a movie star just like Tom Cruise

is the bottom line that Beckham wants money? no, no that’s not the bottom line the money, is not the most important thing for Beckham

right, now, what is the bottom line for David Beckham? the bottom line is he wants to be a famous movie star

that’s his bottom line, that’s his main point, is final point, is most important Point

main

what is Tom Cruise’s bottom line, oh, maybe Tom Cruise’s bottom line — is Scientology, his religion that’s his bottom line?

he wants to get David to join Scientology, to join his religion — that’s Tom’s Secret bottom line?

does Tom know definitely 100%, that Beckham will succeed? no, no, no, no he doesn’t know, not in his brain, not in his mind

100%

brain

mind
his gut tells him, that he will be a big success

he has a feeling right, a feeling in his stomach, he has a deep feeling, that Beckham will be successful, but he doesn’t really know, he’s not sure

his stomach

deep feeling

but he doesn’t really know he’s not sure, he just has a strong feeling, his gut tells him that Beckham will be a big success in Hollywood

what does Tom’s got tell him? Tom’s got tells him, that Beckham will be a big success in Hollywood as an actor

is that doesn’t tell him, that he’ll be a big success as a soccer player maybe, he won’t be, but his gut tells him, that he’ll be a big success in Hollywood

powerful animosity towards Beckham

does the public like David Beckham? no, they feel animosity towards him

who feels animosity towards Beckham? well, the public, the American public feels animosity towards Beckham

does Tom Cruise feel animosity towards Beckham? I don’t know, Tom still like David Beckham

can Beckham handle the animosity, the bad feeling? no he can’t handle it

handle

he can’t survive it

he can’t keep trying, when everybody yells at him

if his soccer coach becomes angry Beckham can deal with it? he can deal with it, no problem

he can’t deal with the public hatred

he becomes scared, he feels this is a dire situation

does he think this is a dangerous and difficult and scary situation?

dangerous

does he feel like it’s a risky situation?

but his movie career has a dire situation

he’s paranoid he thinks everybody wants to hurt him

does he think Tom Cruise wants to hurt him? yes, he does he thinks that even Tom Cruise wants to hurt him

he paranoid about his wife? yes he is he thinks his wife also hates him

he think that everyone in the world wants to hurt him

his team manager calls and says Beckham — this is a situation which is unacceptable. you’re fired. Beckham loses his job and his movie career

point of view mini stories (3 аудио)

let’s start the first one with three years ago, will have to imagine this happened three years ago
three years ago David Beckham was a man, who wanted to have his cake and eat it too…… Примеч. Past Simple Tense (простое прошедшее время, есть конкретная дата произошедшего в прошлом)

Tom introduced Beckham to a director who was very powerful

he director made a movie with Beckham, but it was a terrible movie, everybody hated it and they hated Beckham

The public’s felt a powerful animosity towards Beckham

they couldn’t stand him, they yelled at him and threw things at him см.can и его форма could

he became scared, he felt this was a dire situation

Beckham was so scared, he wouldn’t leave his house, he kept the windows closed and the doors locked

he wouldn’t leave Подробнее в доп. уроки по грамматике Глагол will (would – в прошедшем времени)

he became paranoid and wouldn’t even leave to play soccer см. урок по грамматике Глагол will (would – в прошедшем времени)

Beckham cried, he had no job and nobody could stand him см. урок по грамматике can и его форма could

I change the time a little bit
this time we’re going to talk about the story but did Beckham has always wanted to do these things. have been happening for a while Примечание: С академической точки зрения это время — Present Perfect Tense (Настоящее совершенное время) Очень распространенное в английской речи время, характерные маркеры: have или has, always, для неправильных глаголов 3-форма, для правильных глаголов окончание —ed 

Beckham has always been a man, who has wanted to have his cake and eat it too

he has always wanted to be a famous movie star and a famous football player

he has always wanted to move to Hollywood, he has always wanted to hook up with Tom Cruise

The public’s felt a powerful animosity towards Beckham

they couldn’t stand him, they yelled at him

they threw things at him

Beckham couldn’t deal with the Public’s animosity, he was a guy who was very sensitive

I used the the perfect that have been have gone that verb-tense when, I was talking about things that have always been true or that were true for a while in the past,
may be starting in the past until now or maybe over sometime in the past a range of time….
but I don’t think about that too much listening is how you will improve your grammar, listening and practicing, why is not a good question about grammar or language.
don’t ask why if you want a PhD a doctorate in linguistics you can ask — why if you want to be fluent if you want to speak English easily and naturally.
don’t ask — why? ok just learn it, just listen carefully just do the lesson you will improve I promise all right next to let’s talk…
all right, next to let’s talk about the future in fact maybe this is a going to be a true story
right, let’s not think, the what’s going to happen to David Beckham when he comes to Hollywood?
he’s moving to Los Angeles that’s true, what’s going to happen, what’s imagine this is what I think will happen, so now the future next year David Beckham is moving to Los Angeles

I think — he will want to be a famous movie star and a famous football player at the same time

that’s, why he’s moving to Hollywood?

he’s going to hook up with Tom Cruise

David would like Tom

so, Tom will introduce Beckham to a director — it will be very powerful

the director will make a movie with Beckham, but it’s going to be a terrible movie

they won’t be able to stand him см. глагол будущего времени be able to 

they‘ll yell at him and throw things at him

Beckham won’t be able to deal with the Public’s animosity

he won’t leave his house, he‘ll keep the windows closed in the doors locked

Bekham’ll cry. you’ll have no job and nobody will be able to stand him

all right, did you notice in the future, when we’re talking about the future we say — «will be able to» instead of «can»
write instead  «of can stand him» I’ll say — «we’ll be able to stand him» in the future
and you also in the future you have to listen very carefully, because in real speech not textbooks
but real American English we add — ‘ll, to the subject right — Bekham‘ll
do this — «Becham’ll do that» now in a textbook you will see — «a Beckham will go to» Los Angeles but we say — Becham’ll